I started my day pondering this curious question: Do we truly mean it when we say these things like "Happy Birthday," "Happy Anniversary," and most importantly, "RIP"?

These occasions mark significant milestones in any human's life, celebrated amidst our journey from "Baby to Body." We are called "Baby" at birth and "Body" upon death, while in between, we strive to carve out an identity for ourselves. In this arduous process, we often overlook the chance to celebrate life's small joys and fully embrace the magic of this beautiful journey.

Happy Birthday

Throughout my life, I've often wished "Happy Birthday" to people I know, and sometimes even to strangers. Upon reflection, I realized that I didn't always genuinely mean it. When I do mean it, I make sincere efforts to make their day special. Since this realization, I've stopped saying it unless I truly mean it, and this decision has been transformative. It's helped me prioritize the important people in my life and genuinely care about their happiness. While it's challenging, I've freed myself from the social pressure of superficial well-wishing.

Happy Anniversary

For many, the sentiment behind "Happy Anniversary" only holds true during the first celebration. Subsequently, it often becomes a mere formality, pressured by societal expectations. In some cases, I've known couples who aren't genuinely happy in their marriage, yet they continue to celebrate their anniversary superficially, often for appearances on social media. Reflecting on why we enter such situations can offer profound insights into our married lives.

The decision for two individuals with different backgrounds and expectations to commit their lives to each other is significant and deserves respect. Unfortunately, societal norms often overshadow this, leading to misplaced priorities. Changing this perspective has enriched my own marriage. I celebrate this decision daily, turning each anniversary into a cherished milestone. Differences between partners are natural and can be celebrated by respecting each other's perspectives.

Before wishing "Happy Anniversary" to someone, consider if it might embarrass them if they're not genuinely happy in their marriage. If you know they aren't, consider sharing this perspective with them; understanding can make a significant difference.

RIP

In today's uncertain times, "RIP" is commonly used in WhatsApp groups, yet often without genuine sentiment. How can we assume a departed soul seeks peace? What if their journey after death is filled with joy? Rather than assuming peace posthumously, why not strive to bring peace to someone's life while they're alive? These questions remain unanswered, as no one has returned from death to share insights.

When mourning someone's loss, being present and offering support can make a meaningful difference. Small gestures like a phone call can provide comfort in difficult times. Typing "RIP" in a group chat doesn't provide solace to the departed or those grieving.

In my view, I prefer saying "May his/her soul find its destiny" instead of "RIP," as it aligns better with my understanding. Our bodies are complex machines with unimaginable capabilities, and our words hold significant power. Let's recognize this potential and use it genuinely.

To conclude, let's appreciate the small joys in life and make our words count. Instead of resting in peace, may our souls depart with fond memories, continuing to experience the journey beyond death.

"If you don’t mean it, don’t waste time conveying it."

- Gowribaba