Just Imagine-If your wife reacts this way!!

Imagine this scenario: one evening, you're out for a boy's night or a party with colleagues. Unintentionally, you've been avoiding your wife's calls for hours. Finally, you arrive home at 3 AM to find your wife greeting you at the door with a bright smile. This could very well be a reality, and by the end of this article, you'll understand why.

The core issue in many relationships often begins with fundamental expectations of how a partner should behave—expectations based on an idealized notion rather than accepting each other as they are. Feel free to share your thoughts on this in the comments.

Here's my perspective, shaped by experiences that have transformed my view of a happy married life:

Every couple encounters two significant phases:

Marketing Phase: During courtship or the early years of marriage, couples strive to impress each other, showcasing their best selves. If successful, this leads to marriage, often portrayed as a happy ending in films. However, logically, it's the beginning of a new chapter.

Retention Phase (CRM - Constant Relationship Management): After the initial excitement, couples settle into marriage, often feeling a sense of accomplishment. Yet, this very achievement can become a source of problems. We often neglect continuous effort to maintain the spark.

I've personally navigated through these phases, experiencing the ups and downs of married life. However, a fundamental realization shifted my perspective: humans evolve daily, becoming different individuals with new perspectives. This realization sparked my curiosity to understand and connect with my partner daily, reminiscent of our early courtship. While I may not be the perfect husband, I've embraced the role of a curious student of life, experiencing the best phase of our relationship.

Freedom: Each person is born with their own concept of freedom, resisting boundaries and limitations. This drive often leads us to explore beyond perceived lines. In relationships, if we respect rather than restrict each other's freedom, possessiveness and fear of loss lose their grip.

Marriage should ideally serve as a support system, not a means to impose boundaries. Respecting each other's freedom fosters mutual respect and space.

This perspective doesn't negate the existence of emotions or challenges in marriage. Instead, it encourages returning to the core of a happy relationship. Ultimately, isn't this what best friends do? They may argue or even momentarily dislike each other, yet their bond remains strong.

By striving to be your partner's best friend, you can uncover a deeper dimension of happiness in your relationship.

Reflecting on the earlier scenario, when we judge based on a deeper understanding rather than superficial appearances, we foster deeper connections. While this may not apply universally, taking time to understand your partner's perspective can resolve many issues.

Recognizing that every relationship undergoes cycles—such as the marketing and retention phases—why reinvent the wheel? Instead, cherish your existing bond and renew your love as needed.

If your partner seeks an idealized love elsewhere, rest assured—if you've offered genuine, unconditional love, they'll realize its value. Welcome them back with open arms, or if they choose otherwise, reflect and move forward.

If you believe this perspective can impact someone's life positively, share it. Life is fleeting and unpredictable.

"Happy married life is a perception in reality."

-Gowribaba